Dealing with an Anniversary of Death: The 3 P’s of Grief
Grieving is especially hard around anniversaries, birthdays, death anniversaries, the holidays and other special occasions. I always tell my clients to do the three P’s: Plan-Predict-Prepare.
Plan- it’s vital that you make a plan on these important days so that they don’t sneak up on you or overtake you. Your plan can be as simple as staying busy, binge-watching your favorite show, spending time with family or friends, or being alone. Everyone grieves differently so you need to make a plan that will work for you. Rememberbe kind to yourself, treat yourself as well as you treat your best friend.
Predict- Expect that you will be on an emotional roller coaster during this time. Predict that you will want and need to talk about it or not want to talk about it at all. Predict your worst and prepare for that in whichever way works best for you. Remember grief is as individual as we all are. Again be your own best friend.
Prepare- It’s extremely important to be prepared for this day. That could mean letting our loved ones know that this day is approaching. The point is to let your loved ones know that this day may be hard for you and you might need or want extra support. I always tell my clients: prepare for the worst - this way nothing will sneak up on you. Be prepared to have waves of grief, crying, anger, sadness, loneliness, etc. on this day. Again, remember to be kind to yourself and treat yourself as kindly as you would your best friend.